How To Invite My Coparent to BestInterest

BestInterest is designed to support both collaborative and independent coparenting needs. While inviting your coparent to join the app can offer a seamless communication experience, you also have the option to use BestInterest independently for coaching and message review—allowing you to benefit from our AI-powered features on your own.

Here’s a complete guide to inviting your coparent or using BestInterest on your own:

Many parents dealing with a high conflict situation choose to use BestInterest Solo, which means that all your messages will be sent to your coparent via SMS. That way, you don't need to get them to agree to using an app, or getting an expensive court order.

To begin with this method, you’ll need to add your coparent’s phone number added within the BestInterest app:

1. Open the BestInterest App and go to the Settings > Coparent Profile section.

2. Add Your Coparent’s Phone Number: Enter your coparent’s phone number as prompted and save it.

3. Give your coparent their new number to reach you: Go to Settings > Invite Your Coparent, and either copy and paste this new number and send it to them, or tap "Send Number To Coparent"

Once you’ve added their phone number, BestInterest will communicate with them over SMS. Messages you send will appear as regular text messages on their end, and they won’t know you’re using BestInterest unless you choose to tell them.

For a fully integrated experience for your coparenting family, you can invite your coparent to download BestInterest as well. This allows all messages to happen directly within the app rather than via SMS.

1. Invite Your Coparent: Simply tell them to download the app from the App Store or Play Store, and make sure you have added their phone number to your account in the Settings > Coparent Profile section. If you'd like a pre-filled invite link, go to Settings > Invite Your Coparent.

2. Coparent adds your number: Once your coparent has the app, they should add your phone number in their coparent profile. Once this is done, your accounts will be linked automatically!

If your coparent isn’t ready to join the app or change to a new SMS number, or you prefer to use BestInterest independently, you still have access to powerful AI tools to help manage your coparenting communication:

• Message Review for messages to your coparent: BestInterest’s AI can review messages you receive from your coparent and offer feedback on your outgoing messages. You’ll receive tips on how to keep communication calm and child-focused, helping you avoid conflicts even if your coparent isn’t in the app.

  1. To enable this feature go to Settings > Message Coaching and select "Review Messages Only"

  2. To review a message, go to the Messages screen, enter a message, and tap the arrow button. Your message will either be approved as-is, edited and reviewed, or rejected with reasons provided.

• Message Coaching for messages from your coparent: You can use the Coaching feature of the app to review messages from your coparent. Go to Coaching > Review Message. You can then either copy and paste, or upload a screenshot of a conversation from another app like OurFamilyWizard or iMessage. For more information about the Coaching features of the app, click here.

When things improve, you can always invite your coparent to join you, or give them the new SMS number to use for you, which will allow messages to come through the app.

If you’re having trouble inviting your coparent, setting up coaching-only use, or linking accounts, our support team is here to help. Reach out anytime to get the most out of your BestInterest experience and create a smoother, healthier coparenting journey.